This I pray that you hear my heart. I want you to realize that you have a wonderful opportunity right now. It's so easy to sit in our singleness and be depressed wondering when our significant other will come. We miss out so much on what we can do worrying about what we want or feel like we need as far as a mate. Yet as a single with no kids,100% free, we are free to do anything we want. It's easy to take that "anything we want" and turn it into bad like sleeping around,ruining people by going in and out of purposeless relationships, hurting yourself by putting yourself through purposelss relationships. That is a total waste of your time. Your only hurting your self at that point. No one really talks about what you can REALLY do as a single. So here are some things:
1.Travel
What is that one place that you want to go. Is it the beach or a land far away. Is your calling missions? Maybe it is Italy for a week or Austrailia for a year. As a single you have the freedom to do so pretty much at the cheapest cost ever! You can plan for you and you only. You don't have to worry about "well is my spouse going to want to go there and will they be able to stay as long as I would like (cause remember that they have a job as well)" With out kids you don't have to worry about accomedations for them. You can just enjoy your life with no strings holding on to you. One day you will want to plan for that but now isn't the time. Run with your singleness and your freedom.
2. Friendships
As a single you can go out with your friends and not have to worry about checking in with anyone you can enjoy spur of the moment trips with friends. You still have the accountablity that comes from life giving friendships which is good and you should check in with people still but it isn't required. hopefully you wouldn't be doing anything that would offend God like the "no strings attached" friendships ( and you know what I mean by that) that is not a freedom..that is a sin. Learn to hold your integrity and your purity. Hold your friends accountible and let them hold you accountible. You still have the freedom here to stay out as late as you would like with them and go wherever you would like.
3. God's work
Probably the most important part of this whole ordeal is the fact that God can use you anyway he would like to. If it's his will he can move you across the country, He can guide you better. He can have you stay places longer. He can use you in a big way. Things that a married person would not be able to do. The ministrt that God has called you to do as a single may not be the same thing he has called your spouse to do. At the point of being married your ministry starts with your spouse. It is no longer what you can do to build God's kingdom through the task he has designed specifically for you but to that of building his kingdom with your significant other.
The moral of the story is:
"I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord." 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
This is something that was just recently brought back to my attention. My loving parent's used to tell me this all the time and it was something that I did cling to but after awhile being at college my mindset changed and my focus was gone as far as singleness. All I saw was that my friends are all getting married and starting families and I was so hurt about it. Then God reminded me what my parents had taught me about the freedoms that I have as a single. My idea now is to run with that! I don't know how much more time God will bless me to have these freedoms but I realized that I was letting all these things go by worrying about a future only He knows about. My advice to you as someone going through the same things is to enjoy this time that you have! Whoever God has for you will come when God sees fit. Let God do the work you just focus on Him. Before you know it.. You wont be single anymore. That comes with its own benefits definitely but remember being married isn't the only stage in your life that has benefits! Be free in your singleness and work hard for God. You will be rewarded for it in the end. It may not be marriage but you can bet it will be something greater than you ever imagined, because we definintely serve a GREAT God!
Stay prayerful,
Chelsee
1.Travel
What is that one place that you want to go. Is it the beach or a land far away. Is your calling missions? Maybe it is Italy for a week or Austrailia for a year. As a single you have the freedom to do so pretty much at the cheapest cost ever! You can plan for you and you only. You don't have to worry about "well is my spouse going to want to go there and will they be able to stay as long as I would like (cause remember that they have a job as well)" With out kids you don't have to worry about accomedations for them. You can just enjoy your life with no strings holding on to you. One day you will want to plan for that but now isn't the time. Run with your singleness and your freedom.
2. Friendships
As a single you can go out with your friends and not have to worry about checking in with anyone you can enjoy spur of the moment trips with friends. You still have the accountablity that comes from life giving friendships which is good and you should check in with people still but it isn't required. hopefully you wouldn't be doing anything that would offend God like the "no strings attached" friendships ( and you know what I mean by that) that is not a freedom..that is a sin. Learn to hold your integrity and your purity. Hold your friends accountible and let them hold you accountible. You still have the freedom here to stay out as late as you would like with them and go wherever you would like.
3. God's work
Probably the most important part of this whole ordeal is the fact that God can use you anyway he would like to. If it's his will he can move you across the country, He can guide you better. He can have you stay places longer. He can use you in a big way. Things that a married person would not be able to do. The ministrt that God has called you to do as a single may not be the same thing he has called your spouse to do. At the point of being married your ministry starts with your spouse. It is no longer what you can do to build God's kingdom through the task he has designed specifically for you but to that of building his kingdom with your significant other.
The moral of the story is:
"I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord." 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
This is something that was just recently brought back to my attention. My loving parent's used to tell me this all the time and it was something that I did cling to but after awhile being at college my mindset changed and my focus was gone as far as singleness. All I saw was that my friends are all getting married and starting families and I was so hurt about it. Then God reminded me what my parents had taught me about the freedoms that I have as a single. My idea now is to run with that! I don't know how much more time God will bless me to have these freedoms but I realized that I was letting all these things go by worrying about a future only He knows about. My advice to you as someone going through the same things is to enjoy this time that you have! Whoever God has for you will come when God sees fit. Let God do the work you just focus on Him. Before you know it.. You wont be single anymore. That comes with its own benefits definitely but remember being married isn't the only stage in your life that has benefits! Be free in your singleness and work hard for God. You will be rewarded for it in the end. It may not be marriage but you can bet it will be something greater than you ever imagined, because we definintely serve a GREAT God!
Stay prayerful,
Chelsee
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